You can follow the perfect workout plan, drink enough water, hit your protein goals, and still feel stuck in your fitness journey. Often, the missing piece is not another supplement or a more intense workout routine. It’s sleep.

And not just how much sleep you get that matters, but the quality of that sleep.

You can spend eight hours in bed and still wake up exhausted if your sleep is fragmented, restless, or shallow. On the other hand, truly restorative sleep can improve energy, recovery, performance, and even weight management.

If you feel stuck in your fitness goals despite your best efforts, your sleep quality may deserve more attention.

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Much of your body’s repair work takes place when you sleep. During deep sleep, muscles recover from exercise, growth hormone is released, inflammation is reduced, and energy stores are replenished. Your body is actively restoring itself while you rest. 

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When sleep quality suffers, however, the body may not spend enough time in these deeper restorative stages, even if you technically slept “long enough.”

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This is one reason poor sleep can make fitness progress feel frustratingly slow. Workouts may feel harder than usual. Recovery may take longer. Soreness can linger for days. You may notice yourself feeling more fatigued, less motivated, or mentally foggy throughout the day. Many people assume they need a more disciplined routine or a more intense workout plan when, in reality, their body is simply under-rested.

Sleep also plays a significant role in weight management and appetite regulation. Poor sleep disrupts hormones that control hunger and fullness, often increasing cravings for sugary or highly processed foods while making it harder to recognize when you are satisfied. At the same time, low energy from poor sleep can lead people to rely more heavily on caffeine, convenience foods, or skipped workouts simply to get through the day.

In this way, poor sleep can quietly undermine healthy habits without us fully realizing it. Even with the best intentions, it becomes much harder to make healthy choices when your body and mind are exhausted.

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Signs Your Sleep Quality May Need Improvement

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Poor sleep quality is not always obvious. Some people assume they are sleeping well simply because they are in bed for seven or eight hours each night. But waking frequently, struggling to fall asleep, scrolling on a phone before bed, stress, or an inconsistent sleep schedule can all reduce the restorative quality of sleep.

If you regularly wake up tired, feel sleepy throughout the day, struggle to recover from exercise, or feel like you’ve plateaued in your fitness joruney, your sleep quality may be part of the problem.

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How to Improve Sleep Quality

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Create a Consistent Sleep Schedule
Going to bed and waking up at roughly the same time each day helps regulate your internal clock.

Reduce Screen Time Before Bed
Blue light from phones and tablets can interfere with melatonin production and make deep sleep harder to achieve.

Watch Caffeine Intake
Even afternoon caffeine can affect sleep quality later that night.

Create a Restful Environment
A cool, dark, quiet room often improves sleep dramatically.

Support Your Nervous System
Gentle stretching, reading, prayer, journaling, or quiet routines before bed can help your body transition into restful sleep.

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Fitness culture often celebrates pushing harder, doing more, and staying disciplined at all costs. But sometimes the most productive thing you can do for your health is simply to rest well. 

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When we begin to value true rest alongside movement and nutrition, we give our bodies the support they need to heal, recover, and function the way they were designed to.

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“True devotion never harms anything, but rather perfects all things.”  —St. Francis de Sales, Introduction to the Devout Life

When Life Pulls You in Different Directions

“Father,” Maggie said, “today I’m just… frazzled.”

Father Sal nodded. She looked like a woman who had already lived a full day before lunch.

“I’m trying to pray, be patient with the kids, keep the house from falling apart, make meals, answer questions, find shoes, remember appointments, fold laundry, and not lose my temper before dinner.”

She gave a tired laugh.

“And whichever direction I turn, I feel guilty that I’m not doing something else. If I pray, I feel like I should be taking care of the house. If I’m taking care of the house, I feel like I should be praying. If I sit with one child, I remember what another child needs.”

She looked down at her hands.

“I’m trying to be devout, Father, but mostly I just feel behind.”

Father Sal was quiet for a moment.

“That sounds heavy.”

“It is.”

He waited another moment, then asked, “Does it feel like being a mom and becoming holy are two different things?”

Maggie looked up.

“Yes,” she said. “That’s exactly it.”

“Devotion must be practiced differently by the nobleman, the artisan, the servant, the prince, the widow, the young girl, and the married woman.”  — St. Francis de Sales

Devotion Fits Like a Glove

“What do you think holiness looks like right now?” Father Sal asked.

Maggie did not have to think long.

“More,” she said. “More prayer. More patience. More spiritual reading. More peace. More consistency. More everything.”

“And how does that feel?”

“Crushing.”

Father Sal looked at her gently.

“Crushing?”

Maggie nodded.

“Does God the Father want you to feel crushed?”

She was quiet for a moment.

“No.”

“What does that tell you?”

“That maybe those thoughts are not coming from Him.”

Father Sal nodded.

“St. Francis de Sales says devotion has to be tailored to your actual vocation. It should fit like a glove.”

“So I am not supposed to become a nun with children?”

“No,” he said. “And you are not called to be holy and a mother, as if those were two separate lives. You are called to be a holy mother.”

Maggie sat back.

“That feels different.”

“It is,” Father Sal said. “Your path to holiness passes through the life God has actually given you: these children, this home, this season, these limits, these duties.”

She took that in.

“Grace perfects reality,” he said. “It does not ask you to pretend your real life is somewhere else.”

“As the bee draws honey from flowers without damaging them, so true devotion gathers sweetness from our duties without destroying them.”  — St. Francis de Sales

The Soul of Your Vocation

“Francis gives a beautiful image,” Father Sal continued. “True devotion is like a bee visiting a flower. The bee draws honey from the flower, but does not damage it.”

“I like that,” Maggie said.

“He also says precious stones cast into honey become even more brilliant. That is what devotion is supposed to do. It does not dull the duties of life. It makes them shine.”

Maggie was quiet.

“So devotion is not supposed to take me away from my duties.”

“No,” Father Sal said. “True devotion is meant to become the soul of your vocation.”

She repeated it softly. “The soul of your vocation.”

Fr. Sal’s eyes sparkled. “Yes. Not one more burden stacked on top of motherhood. Not one more impossible expectation. The soul. The inner life. The love of God moving through the duties God has given you.”

Maggie looked down.

“I think I keep asking, ‘How do I get away from all this so I can pray?’”

Father Sal nodded.

“And maybe the better question is, ‘Lord, how can I love You here?’”

Maggie was quiet again.

“That feels smaller,” she said.

“Smaller is not always less,” Father Sal said. “Sometimes it is where love can finally enter.”

“We must practice the virtues required of us, not merely the virtues we prefer.”  — St. Francis de Sales

Less Can Be More

Maggie rubbed her forehead.

“I think I am trying to change too much at once. I want a better prayer routine. I want to be more patient. I want the house to be peaceful. I want to stop rushing. I want to be gentle. I want to be holy.”

“All good desires,” Father Sal said. “But good desires still need order.”

“That makes sense.”

“Is there one devotion, practice, or expectation you have put on yourself that could become smaller for now?”

Maggie hesitated.

“Maybe my spiritual reading. I keep thinking I should read a whole chapter every day. But then I fall behind and feel guilty.”

“What would smaller look like?”

“Maybe one page.”

“Could you feel good about one page?”

She thought about it.

“Yes. Actually, yes.”

“Or even a paragraph on very full days?”

Maggie laughed. “That sounds almost too small.”

“Would doing less make you a better mom?”

She looked surprised.

“I think it might.”

Father Sal smiled.

“Then that seems worth noticing.”

Maggie let that settle.

“I think I needed permission to not turn every good thing into a rule.”

This Too, With Love

“Maggie,” Father Sal asked, “do you love your children?”

She looked almost offended.

“Of course. More than anything.”

“When your daughter is learning something new and gets frustrated, what do you tell her?”

Maggie’s face softened.

“I tell her she is learning. I tell her to slow down, take a breath, and try again.”

“Do you love her less because she struggles?”

“No.”

“Then if you could look at yourself with a little of that same tenderness, what would you tell yourself?”

Maggie’s eyes grew moist.

“That I am learning…

“That I do not have to change everything at once…

“That feeling overwhelmed does not mean I am failing.”

Father Sal nodded, “Yes, and maybe take a breath.”

Maggie wiped at one eye, sucked in a breath, and laughed. “I would never talk to my daughter the way I talk to myself.”

“Most people would not.”

“So what do I do today?”

“Take one simple phrase with you.”

“What phrase?”

“What about: ‘This too, with love’?”

Maggie repeated it. “This too, with love.”

“Not as another assignment,” he said. “As a little sanctuary. A place to return when the house is loud, when someone needs you again, when you are tired, when you forget and begin again.”

“This too, with love,” she said.

“Not perfectly. Not anxiously. Just as a way of inviting God into the duty in front of you.”

“And if I fail?” Maggie asked.

Father Sal smiled. “What would you tell your daughter?”

Maggie looked down, then smiled.

“Breathe. Begin again.”

“And if you forget?”

“Breathe. Begin again.”

“And if you say it through clenched teeth?”

She laughed.

“Then I guess I would tell her, ‘That still counts as trying.’”

Father Sal nodded. “That sounds right.”

Maggie took another deep breath.

“One phrase,” she said. “Over and over again.”

“This too, with love.”

A Simple Practice

Today, choose one phrase and return to it throughout the day:

This too, with love.

Say it when the house is loud.

Say it when someone interrupts you.

Say it when you are tempted to rush.

Say it when you have to begin again.

Not perfectly.

Not anxiously.

Not as one more burden.

Let it become a little sanctuary in the middle of your real life.

Because true devotion does not ask you to escape the life God has given you. It teaches you how to love Him there.

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In the pursuit of a healthy, balanced life, it’s easy to focus only on what is visible like our strength, our routines, our physical progress; however, as Catholics and as members of the Pietra Fitness community, we know that true wellness is never just about the body. It is about the integration of body, mind, and soul, ordered toward the love of God.

But what does that actually look like in daily life? How do we grow not only in discipline, but in holiness? How do we ensure that our efforts are shaping more virtuous hearts?

In the spiritual classic True Devotion to Mary, St. Louis de Montfort offers us a clear and beautiful path: look to Mary. He identifies the “ten principal virtues of the most Holy Virgin Mary” and in practicing these, we can help grow closer to Jesus through Mary.

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Profound humility

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“My soul proclaims the greatness of the Lord, my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has looked with favor on his lowly servant. From this day all generations will call me blessed: the Almighty has done great things for me, and holy is his Name.” (Luke 1:46-49).

Through the words of the Magnificat, we can see the depth of Mary’s profound humility. Mary knew who she was before God and she rejoiced in it. She recognized both her littleness and God’s greatness, and it allowed His grace to work powerfully through her.

Humility is not thinking less of ourselves, but seeing ourselves truthfully. It is recognizing that everything we have is a gift, and allowing that truth to free us from comparison and the need to prove ourselves.

Some ways you can practice this in your own life is by regularly praying the Magnificat or the Litany of Humility. You can also meditate on Christ’s example of humility throughout His life, or by choosing to serve others quietly.

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Lively faith

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“Blessed are you who believed that what was spoken to you by the Lord would be fulfilled.” (Luke 1:45)

Elizabeth’s words reveal the heart of Mary’s faith: she believed. Not because everything was clear or easy, but because she trusted in the One who spoke.

Mary’s faith was not passive; it was alive. It moved her to say “yes,” to go, to trust, and to persevere even when she did not understand—whether at the Annunciation, the Nativity, or standing at the foot of the Cross.

Faith is one of the three theological virtues and therefore, not a virtue we can obtain by our own effort; it is a gift of grace. However, we can open our hearts to fully receive this grace by seeking communion with the Giver of such a gift. Daily prayer, reading Scripture, frequent reception of the Sacraments will help you grow in this Marian virtue.

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Blind obedience

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“Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord. May it be done to me according to your word.” (Luke 1:38)

Mary’s fiat is the perfect example of obedience. She surrendered her will completely to God’s plan, without needing to see the full picture. Her “yes” was immediate, trusting, and total.

Obedience is often misunderstood, but at its heart, it means aligning our will with God’s, even when it stretches us or leads us into the unknown.

In daily life, this might look like responding generously to your vocation, being faithful in the responsibilities entrusted to you, or listening to God’s voice in prayer and following where He leads.

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Continual prayer

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“Mary kept all these things, pondering them in her heart.” (Luke 2:19)

Mary lived in constant communion with God. She reflected, listened, and remained attentive to His presence in every moment. Her prayer was not limited to a specific time or place—it permeated her entire life. Whether in silence, service, or suffering, her heart remained turned toward God.

Continual prayer for us means cultivating an awareness of God throughout the day. It is inviting Him into our routines, our workouts, our conversations, and even our struggles.

Some ways to grow in this are by offering small prayers throughout your day, practicing moments of silence and recollection, and beginning and ending your day with intentional prayer.

Universal Mortification

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“...and you yourself a sword will pierce” (Luke 2:35)

Mortification, in its truest sense, is not about harshness toward ourselves, but about a heart that is freed to love God above all things. Mary’s life was not one of ease or comfort, but of continual self-offering.

Simeon’s prophecy reveals the cost of love: a sword will pierce her heart. Mary does not avoid suffering; she unites herself to it. From Bethlehem to Calvary, she embraces whatever God allows, trusting that even sorrow can be redemptive.

Universal mortification for us means learning to detach from comfort, preference, and self-will so that we can more freely belong to God. It is choosing what is good over what is easy, and offering even our difficulties in love.

Practically, this may look like small daily sacrifices, faithful discipline in our habits, or accepting trials without bitterness.

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Divine purity

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“In the sixth month, the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a town of Galilee called Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed to a man named Joseph, of the house of David, and the virgin’s name was Mary. And coming to her, he said, “Hail, full of grace! The Lord is with you.” (Luke 1:26-28)

Purity is not just about avoiding sin; it indicates an integrity of heart. It is living with a clear and undivided love, free from disordered attachments. Mary’s heart was completely pure—undivided and wholly given to God. Her desires, intentions, and actions were all ordered toward Him.

Living out this virtue begins with rooting out sin from our lives through the frequent reception of the Sacraments, especially Confession. A daily examination of conscience will also help you identify patterns of sin and grow in greater freedom and clarity of heart.

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Ardent Charity

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“Mary set out and traveled to the hill country in haste…” (Luke 1:39)

Charity is the greatest of the theological virtues, binding us intimately to God and our neighbors. It is more than just a feeling or emotion; it is an active choice to will the good of others, reflecting the selfless love God has for us. 

After the Annunciation, Mary did not turn inward after receiving such a great gift; she turned outward, bringing Christ to others, specifically her cousin Elizabeth. In doing so, she demonstrated her profound and self-giving love 

Similar to faith, the virtue of charity is first and foremost a grace, so prayer is at the heart of this virtue. Another way to practice this virtue in your own life is through the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy which give us a model for how we should love and serve Christ by loving and serving our neighbors. 

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Heroic Patience

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“And Joseph too went up from Galilee from the town of Nazareth to Judea, to the city of David that is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and family of David, to be enrolled with Mary, his betrothed, who was with child.While they were there, the time came for her to have her child, and she gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in swaddling clothes and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.” (Luke 2:4-7)

Mary’s life was marked by quiet endurance. From the journey to Bethlehem to the poverty of the manger, she embraces circumstances that are uncertain, uncomfortable, and far from what the world would consider ideal.

Mary does not resist the reality placed before her; she receives it with trust. Even in poverty, displacement, and obscurity, she remains at peace.

This kind of patience is deeply countercultural. It resists frustration, comparison, and the need for immediate resolution. Instead, it anchors itself in the belief that God is present and active even in delay and difficulty.

You can begin to grow in this virtue by offering small annoyances to God as acts of trust, reminding yourself that He is in control. Pause to pray when you feel frustration rising. By nurturing a calm and trusting heart, you can turn moments of impatience into opportunities for grace, gradually shaping your interior disposition to mirror Christ’s patient endurance.

Angelic Sweetness

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"When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the child leaped in her womb. And Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit and exclaimed with a loud cry, “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb. And why has this happened to me, that the mother of my Lord comes to me?" (Luke 1:40-44)

Angelic sweetness is the virtue that reflects Mary’s gentle, peace-filled presence. At the Visitation, we see the effect of Mary’s presence: joy is stirred, the Holy Spirit is awakened, and even the unborn John the Baptist leaps in response.

Mary does not need many words or grand gestures. Her greeting alone carries grace. Her sweetness is not a bubbly personality; it is the overflow of a heart fully united to God.This kind of holiness draws others toward God rather than toward herself. It brings peace into a room, and consolation to those in need.

For us, angelic sweetness can be lived in how we speak, how we listen, and how we enter into the lives of others. It is choosing gentleness, patience, and encouragement over criticism, especially in the ordinary interactions of daily life.

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Divine Wisdom

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“Do whatever he tells you.” (Luke 2:5)

Mary did not rely on her own understanding; Her wisdom came from her closeness to God. She was deeply attuned to His will because she always conversed with the Lord before anything else; she sought to know His will so she could put it into action. 

She knew when to act, when to speak, and when to remain silent, like at Cana, where she simply instructed the servers, “Do whatever he tells you.”

Divine wisdom for us grows through prayer, Scripture, and openness to the Holy Spirit. It helps us discern what is truly good and choose rightly in our daily lives.

You don’t need to take on all ten virtues today. In fact, holiness rarely begins that way. It usually begins with one small “yes.” Maybe this week, you simply choose one virtue to focus on—one way to imitate Mary in your thoughts, your habits, or your daily routines. 

Over time, these small practices shape something beautiful in us: a heart more open to God, more free in love, and more willing to say yes. 

In this month dedicated to Our Lady, let Mary teach you how to live each day with God at the center.

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In a world that rarely slows down, many of us are living in a near-constant state of low-grade stress. Notifications, responsibilities, noise, and even our own thoughts can keep our bodies stuck in “fight or flight” mode. Over time, this takes a toll—not just mentally, but physically and spiritually as well.

What we often need isn’t a complete life overhaul, but a reset, a gentle return to calm. The good news is that God has created our bodies with the ability to regulate, restore, and return to balance. With a few intentional daily practices, we can begin to cooperate with that design.

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What Is a Nervous System Reset?

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Your nervous system has two primary modes: Sympathetic (aka fight or flight) which is activated by stress, urgency, and perceived danger, and Parasympathetic (rest and digest) which is activated by feelings of safety.

A “reset” simply means helping your body shift out of stress mode and back into a state of rest. Practicing these tips can help you form habits that support long-term health, clarity, and even deeper prayer.

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Start with Your Breath

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One of the fastest ways to signal safety to your body is through your breath. Longer exhales help activate the parasympathetic nervous system, telling your body it is safe to relax.

Try this simple practice: Inhale slowly through your nose for 4 counts, then exhale gently through your mouth for 6 counts. Repeat for 2–3 minutes

Read more: The Power of Breathwork: How Deep Breathing Can Improve Your Health

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Slow, Intentional Movement

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Not all movement needs to be intense to be effective. In fact, slow, controlled movement can be one of the most powerful ways to calm the nervous system.

Gentle stretching, mobility work, and mindful strengthening help: release stored tension, improve body awareness, reconnect mind and body.

In Pietra Fitness classes, our instructors are specifically trained to guide movements that not only strengthen the body but also help regulate and reset the nervous system.

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Get Grounded 

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When your mind feels scattered, grounding your body can bring you back to the present moment. Grounding positions like sitting, kneeling, or lying on one’s back, communicate safety to the nervous system. 

Try standing barefoot on the ground, sitting quietly and noticing where your body makes contact with a chair, placing a hand over your heart and taking a few slow breaths. These simple actions help orient your body to the present, reducing feelings of overwhelm.

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Create Moments of Stillness

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We often underestimate how much we need silence. Even a few minutes of quiet without music, podcasts, or screens can help your nervous system settle.

Consider building a daily rhythm of stillness like saying morning prayer before the day begins, giving yourself a quiet pause in the afternoon, or ending the day with an evening reflection or examen.

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Engage Your Senses

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Your senses can either heighten stress or help calm it. Creating a calming environment communicates safety and peace to your body. 

To support a reset, try: soft lighting or candlelight, calming scents like lavender or frankincense, gentle, instrumental music, or a warm cup of tea.

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Pray with Your Body

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We are not just minds that pray; we are bodies and souls created for worship.

Posture, movement, and breath can all become forms of prayer: kneeling in surrender, opening your hands in receptivity, praying with deep breathing.

This is another area where Pietra Fitness beautifully integrates faith and physiology. Each class invites you to pray not only with your words, but with your whole person.

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End the Day with Gentle Release

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Before bed, take a few moments to help your body unwind. Practice some light stretching, deep breathing, or journaling. Avoid jumping straight from stimulation (phones, TV) into sleep. Give your body time to transition into rest.

Resetting your nervous system doesn’t require long hours of effort or perfection. It’s built in small choices throughout your day.

If you’re looking for a simple, sustainable way to build this into your daily life, the online studio from Pietra Fitness offers a beautiful place to begin. 

With classes designed to gently strengthen the body while calming and restoring the nervous system, you’re guided every step of the way by instructors who understand the connection between movement, breath, and prayer. Whether you have ten minutes or a full hour, you can step into a rhythm of peace right from your home.

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Maggie dropped onto the couch with a sigh.

Father Sal looked up from his tea. “That bad?”

She gave a tired little laugh. “I’m not sure bad is the word. Discouraging, maybe. I’ve been trying to pray the way we talked about last month, but I keep getting pulled away. I sit down to be with Jesus, and within minutes I’m fighting distractions.”

“What kind of distractions?” Father Sal asked.

“Oh, the usual.” She started ticking them off on her fingers. “My daughter. Groceries. A thank-you note I forgot to send. A conversation that didn’t sit right with me. Something I need to do tomorrow. It feels like every time I try to pray, my mind turns into a cluttered closet.”

Father Sal smiled. “And why are you fighting them?”

Maggie frowned. “Because they’re distractions.”

“Are they?”

She blinked. “Well… yes. Aren’t they?”

Father Sal leaned back in his chair. “Not always. Sometimes what you call a distraction is really your heart revealing itself before God.”

Maggie folded her arms. “I’m not sure that makes me feel better.”

“It should,” he said gently. “Sometimes the heart is like a little child. One moment it runs off in ten directions. The next moment it clings tightly to one thing and refuses to let go.”

Maggie laughed softly. “That sounds uncomfortably accurate.”

“It is accurate,” Father Sal said. “Sometimes your heart runs toward errands, unfinished tasks, worries, memories, relationships. Sometimes it wraps itself around a fear, a hurt, or a desire and will not release it. Prayer often reveals both movements: the heart scattering and the heart clinging.”

“So when my mind is all over the place,” Maggie said slowly, “it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m failing at prayer.”

“No,” Father Sal said. “It may simply mean you are seeing more honestly what is going on within you.”

The Heart That Scatters and Clings

Maggie looked down at her hands. “I guess I’ve been treating prayer like a test. Like if I really loved God, I’d be better at controlling my thoughts.”

Father Sal shook his head. “A child-heart is not healed by force. It has to be gently gathered. The point of prayer is not to prove how hard you can fight. The point is to let your heart return to God.”

She was quiet for a moment. “Then what am I supposed to do? Just let every thought run loose?”

“No. But before you treat something as an obstacle, ask what it is.”

Maggie looked at him skeptically.

“I mean it,” he said. “You keep thinking about your daughter. Is that really just an interruption? Or might it be part of the life God has given you? You remember the thank-you note. Is that simply a nuisance, or is it a real duty asking to be handled? You replay a painful conversation. Is that just noise, or is it perhaps a wound, or a fear, or something that needs to be surrendered?”

Maggie sat back. “So you’re saying not every distraction is an obstacle.”

“Exactly,” Father Sal said. “Sometimes it is a bridge.”

When a Distraction Becomes a Bridge

“A bridge to what?” Maggie asked.

“To prayer.”

She looked at him for a long second. “That sounds nice, Father, but it also sounds a little too neat.”

He chuckled. “Fair enough. Let’s make it less neat and more practical. Usually what comes up in prayer falls into only a few kinds of things.”

He lifted one hand and began to count on his fingers.

“Something to do. Someone to pray for. Something to surrender. Something that needs healing. Something you need to say honestly to Jesus.”

Maggie nodded slowly.

“You don’t have to give every thought the same treatment,” Father Sal continued. “Some things need to be written down. Some need to be entrusted to God. Some need to be spoken aloud to Christ. But not everything needs to be wrestled to the floor.”

Maggie smiled. “That last part I understand.”

“Good,” he said. “Now let’s try it. Give me one.”

“One what?”

“One of your distractions.”

She hesitated. “My daughter.”

Father Sal waited.

Maggie shrugged. “I worry about her sometimes.”

What Would You Say to Jesus?

He tilted his head. “What would you say about that to Jesus if He were here listening to you right now?”

Maggie looked down. For a moment she said nothing. Then, a little awkwardly, she said, “I suppose I’d say… Jesus, I’m worried about her. Please take care of her. Help me trust You with her.”

Father Sal smiled. “There you are.”

Maggie looked up. “There I am where?”

“At prayer.”

She let out a breath and laughed softly. “That was almost annoyingly simple.”

“The best things often are.”

She thought for a moment. “Okay. Another one. The thank-you note.”

“And what kind of thing is that?” he asked.

“A thing to do.”

“So what would be the wise response?”

Maggie grinned now. “Write it down, stop carrying it around in my head, and go back to Jesus.”

“Exactly.”

She leaned back against the couch cushion. “So the problem isn’t always that these thoughts appear. The problem is that I either panic over them or fight them the wrong way.”

Father Sal nodded. “Yes. And sometimes you fight them because you assume prayer means leaving your real life behind. But prayer is not an escape from your life. It is where your life is gathered into God.”

Maggie was quiet again, but this time it was the quiet of recognition.

“I think I understand,” she said. “If something comes into prayer, I don’t have to treat it first as a failure. I can ask what it is. Is it something I need to do? Someone I need to pray for? Something I need to surrender? Something I need healing from? Something I need to bring honestly to Jesus?”

Father Sal raised his cup toward her. “Now you sound like someone who has been paying attention.”

She smiled. “Only because I’ve been corrected.”

“Guided,” he said.

“Corrected,” she repeated.

He laughed. “All right. Corrected.”

She sat for a moment, then said more softly, “I think I’ve been assuming that loving God above all things meant not having all these other thoughts and loves and concerns crowding in.”

Father Sal’s expression softened. “No, Maggie. Loving God above all things does not mean having no other loves. It means letting every other love find its proper place in Him.”

She looked up.

“That is what prayer begins to do,” he said. “It gathers what has scattered. It loosens what has clenched. It teaches the heart to bring everything back to God.”

Maggie nodded slowly. “So even the things that seem to interrupt prayer can become part of it.”

“Yes,” Father Sal said. “By grace, even what pulls at your heart can become the place where love returns.”

So What?

When something arises in prayer, do not panic. Do not assume you have failed. Instead, pause and ask: What is this?

Is it something I need to do?

Someone I need to pray for?

Something I need to surrender?

Something I need healing from?

Something I need to bring honestly to Jesus?

Then, gently, return to Him.

Love of God above all things does not mean suppressing every lesser thought, duty, or affection. It means allowing Christ to gather them, heal them, and place them in right order. What first seems like a distraction may become, by grace, the very place where prayer begins.

If it would be helpful, try this Distractions Worksheet.

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Spring has a way of inviting us to start fresh. As sunlight pours through the windows and the air begins to warm, many of us feel the urge to throw open the curtains, clear out clutter, and give our homes a good cleaning. 

But spring is also a wonderful time to refresh our habits and routines. Just as small cleaning tasks can transform a room, small changes in our daily lives can make a big difference for our health.

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Refresh your Eating Habits

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Just as we clear out old clutter from our homes, spring is a good time to take a look at what we’re fueling our bodies with. 

Consider stocking your kitchen with fresh, seasonal fruits and vegetables, which are naturally rich in nutrients that support energy and immunity. You might also try swapping one processed snack each day for a whole-food option like nuts, yogurt, or fresh fruit.

These small substitutions can help satisfy cravings while avoiding the energy crashes that often come with heavily processed foods. And don’t forget to stay hydrated! Keeping a water bottle nearby or enjoying herbal teas or infused water can make staying hydrated feel effortless.

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Move More, Move Mindfully

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Spring’s milder weather makes it easier to get outside and move your body. This doesn’t have to mean intense workouts; even simple movement can have powerful benefits. A short walk, especially after meals, can help digestion and lift your mood. Adding five to ten minutes of stretching in the morning can also improve posture, circulation, and focus throughout the day. 

Spring is also a great time to try something new, whether that’s a new home workout, or even time spent gardening. The goal isn’t perfection or intensity, but consistency. Small amounts of regular movement can gradually build strength, energy, and overall well-being.

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Reset your Sleep Routine

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Sleep is one of the most important foundations of good health, yet it’s often overlooked when we think about refreshing our routines. Start by making your bedroom a calm and restful space—decluttering surfaces and removing distractions can help create a more peaceful environment. 

Establishing a simple bedtime routine can also make a big difference. Something as small as spending twenty minutes reading, stretching, or taking a warm shower can signal to your body that it’s time to wind down. Limiting screens before bed is another helpful step, since the blue light from phones and tablets can interfere with melatonin production and make it harder to fall asleep. 

Better sleep can lead to improved energy, focus, and immunity, giving your body a true seasonal reset.

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Boost Mental Clarity

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Spring cleaning isn’t just for your physical surroundings; it can also be helpful to clear some mental space. Taking a few minutes each day to journal, make a plan, or write down lingering tasks can bring clarity and reduce stress. 

It may also be worth decluttering your digital spaces by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails, organizing files, or limiting time spent scrolling through social media. 

Finally, incorporating a small habit of gratitude—whether through prayer, reflection, or simply noting a few blessings each day—can help shift your perspective and improve your mood. When your mind feels more organized and peaceful, healthy choices often become easier to maintain.

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Small Steps, Big Impact

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Remember, spring cleaning for your health doesn’t mean a complete life overhaul. Start with one or two small changes each week. Over time, these small shifts compound into meaningful improvements in energy, mood, and overall well-being.

Spring is a season of renewal; why not take the opportunity to renew your health, too? Even the smallest steps today can blossom into lasting habits that help you feel your best all year long.

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The stories of so many saints intertwine with the Story of Salvation during the Passion, Death, and Resurrection of the Lord. Previously, we reflected on several of the saints who appear in the Gospel accounts of Holy Week—those who stood near the Cross, followed Christ to Calvary, or remained faithful in the shadow of the Crucifixion.

The Resurrection brought new encounters, new understanding, and new witnesses from whom we can learn how to embrace the hope and the joy the Resurrection brings us.

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St. Mary Magdalene: The First Witness

The first person to encounter the risen Christ was not one of the Twelve but Mary Magdalene.

She came to the tomb early in the morning while it was still dark, expecting to anoint Christ’s body. Instead she found the stone rolled away and the tomb empty. Distressed, she ran to tell the disciples, assuming that someone had taken the Lord’s body.

Even after seeing the empty tomb, she did not yet understand what had happened. She remained outside the tomb weeping. When she turned and saw Jesus standing there, she mistook Him for the gardener. 

But when the risen Christ spoke her name, grief turned into recognition. Christ then entrusted her with the first proclamation of the Resurrection, sending her to tell the apostles what she had seen. For this reason, she is sometimes called the “Apostle to the Apostles.”

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Sts. Peter and John: Running to the Tomb

When Mary Magdalene reported that the tomb was empty, two disciples ran to see it for themselves: Peter the Apostle and John the Apostle.

John arrived first but paused outside the tomb. Peter, arriving moments later, went straight inside. There they saw the burial cloth lying where Christ’s body had been and the face cloth folded separately.

John’s Gospel tells us that when John entered the tomb, “he saw and believed.” Yet the full meaning of the Resurrection would continue to unfold for both apostles in the days ahead.

For Peter especially, the Resurrection also brought healing. Only days earlier he had denied Christ three times. Soon the risen Lord would meet him again on the shores of Galilee and ask him three times, “Do you love me?”

The Resurrection was not only proof of victory over death—it was also the beginning of restoration.

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St. Thomas: From Doubt to Faith

Among the apostles, Thomas the Apostle is often remembered for his doubt. When the other disciples told him they had seen the Lord, Thomas refused to believe unless he could see and touch the wounds himself.

A week later, Christ appeared again while Thomas was present. Turning directly to him, Jesus invited him to place his finger in the wounds of His hands and side. Thomas’ response is one of the most powerful professions of faith in Scripture: “My Lord and my God.”

Christ then spoke words that reach far beyond that room to every Christian who would come after: “Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe.”

Thomas reminds us that honest questions can lead to profound faith.

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St. Cleopas: Recognizing Christ on the Road

On the afternoon of the Resurrection, two disciples were walking from Jerusalem to Emmaus. One of them was Cleopas.

As they walked, they discussed the events of the past few days—Christ’s crucifixion and the confusing reports of the empty tomb. A stranger joined them along the road and began explaining how the Scriptures foretold the suffering and glory of the Messiah.

Though they did not recognize Him at first, their hearts began to burn within them as He spoke. It was only later, when they sat down to share a meal and He broke the bread, that their eyes were opened and they recognized Him as the risen Christ.

Immediately they returned to Jerusalem to share the news with the other disciples.

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St. Matthias

Not every saint connected to the Resurrection encountered Christ on Easter morning. Some were later chosen to testify to the truth of what had happened.

After the Ascension, the apostles selected Matthias the Apostle to replace Judas Iscariot. The man chosen needed to have followed Christ from the beginning of His ministry and to be able to serve as a “witness to His resurrection” (Acts 1:22). 

Matthias’ calling highlights how central the Resurrection was to the early Church. The apostles were not simply teachers of moral wisdom—they were witnesses to a historical event that transformed the world.

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Maggie took a deep breath as she walked toward Father Sal's office for her first spiritual direction appointment. She wasn't even sure what she was supposed to say.

But when she finally sat down, the question came out almost immediately. "Father Sal, everyone keeps telling me prayer changes everything. But honestly, most days it just feels like another thing on my to-do list."

Father Sal smiled gently. "That's because you haven't discovered mental prayer/daily meditation yet."

"What’s so special about it?”

“It’s the great secret of the spiritual life.”

“That sounds like a sales pitch.”

He laughed. “Fair enough. Let me put it this way. Most things in life improve what already exists. Mental prayer transforms it.”

“Transforms?”

“Yes. Think of a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. Prayer doesn’t just polish our lives—it changes them.”

Maggie leaned forward a little. “Okay,” she said. “Now I’m curious.”

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Why Mental Prayer Matters

“St. Francis de Sales believed mental prayer was the most important habit in the Christian life,” Father Sal said.

“More important than anything else?”

“In a sense, yes. Because it’s where our friendship with God grows. If you regularly spend time speaking with God and listening to Him, your mind changes, your heart changes, and eventually your life changes.”

“So prayer isn’t just asking for things?”

“No,” Father Sal said. “It’s friendship.”

He paused and added, “St. Teresa of Avila once said: ‘Whoever begins to practice prayer should not abandon it, whatever trials may come.’ Once someone discovers the power of prayer, it becomes the anchor of their whole life.”

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When Should You Pray?

“Okay,” Maggie said. “So when am I supposed to do this?”

“Whenever your mind is most free.”

“Everyone says early morning.”

“That works for some people,” Father Sal said. “But not everyone.”

He told her about a Catholic CEO who struggled with morning prayer for years. “Eventually he realized his best time was later in the evening. After dinner, once the day slowed down, he’d spend a few minutes playing guitar to unwind—and then he’d pray. That’s when his mind was finally clear.”

“So the rule is…?”

“Pray when you're at your best.”

Maggie thought for a moment. “Honestly, the only quiet moment in my day is after the kids are asleep.”

Father Sal nodded. “That sounds like your moment.”

“Maybe fifteen to thirty minutes before bed.”

“Perfect.”

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Where Should You Pray?

“Next question,” Maggie said. “Where?”

“Somewhere with as few distractions as possible.”

He told her about a nurse who worked twelve-hour hospital shifts. “She’d listen to a spiritual talk while driving to work. Then she’d arrive early, sit in her car, and spend fifteen minutes journaling and talking to God.”

“In her car?”

“Sometimes holiness happens in very ordinary places.”

Maggie laughed. “So my couch after bedtime prayers?”

“Exactly.”

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How Do You Actually Pray?

“Alright,” Maggie said. “What do I actually do for the time in prayer?”

“First,” Father Sal said, “place yourself in God’s presence.”

“How?”

“St. Francis de Sales suggests four simple ways:

• Remember God is everywhere
• Imagine Jesus beside you
• Recall that He lives within your heart
• Place yourself inside a scene from the Gospel

Pick one and pause there for a moment.”

“That already sounds easier than I expected,” Maggie said.

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The Heart of Prayer

“Then read a bit from Scripture or writings from the saints so that you can bring your mind and heart to God. And then simply talk to Jesus,” Father Sal said.

“That’s it?”

“That’s the heart of mental prayer. Speak with Him about anything—your worries, your gratitude, your hopes, your frustrations.”

“And then listen?”

“Yes. Prayer involves your whole person—your mind thinking, your heart responding, your imagination picturing the Gospel.”

“So prayer isn’t just in my head.”

“Exactly. Sometimes even your body helps: kneeling, holding a crucifix, placing a hand on your heart.”

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What If Prayer Feels Difficult?

Maggie hesitated. “Sometimes prayer just feels dry.”

“That’s completely normal,” Father Sal said.

“Really?”

“Absolutely. St. Francis de Sales says the worst thing you can do is get upset about distractions.”

“So what should I do instead?”

“Humbly accept them and gently return to God.”

“And if I keep drifting?”

“Use simple actions to help your attention—hold a crucifix, kiss the Scriptures, or speak to Jesus out loud. Small physical actions can bring your heart back.”

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The Most Important Part of Prayer

“Last question,” Maggie said. “How do I end prayer?”

“By making one small resolution.”

“A resolution?”

“Yes. Prayer isn’t meant to be an escape from life. It’s meant to transform life.”

“So what kind of resolution?”

“One action that’s small, concrete, and doable today.”

“And how do I remember to do it?”

“Well,” Father Sal said, “you could write it down, or put it in your calendar, or connect it to something you already do.”

“Like what?”

“For example: every time I wash my hands, I say, ‘Jesus, thank you for washing away my sins.’”

“That’s clever.”

“The best option,” Father Sal added, “is to act immediately.” “So if my resolution is apologizing to someone…” “Send the text right away.”

Maggie smiled. “That would definitely make prayer real.”

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Maggie’s Plan

She sat quietly for a moment. “Honestly,” she said slowly, “I think the hardest part for me has just been knowing where to start.”

Father Sal nodded. “That’s true for a lot of people.”

“Well,” Maggie said, “here’s my plan. Fifteen to thirty minutes after the kids go to bed. On the couch. I’ll start by imagining Jesus sitting beside me. Then I’ll read a bit from the Gospel of Mark or In Conversation with God, and then talk with Him about it before spending time in silence. And before I finish, I’ll make one small resolution to live differently.”

Father Sal nodded. “That’s mental prayer.”

“Simple,” Maggie said.

“Simple,” Father Sal replied. “But powerful. Because slowly—quietly—God begins to transform you.” He paused and added with a smile, “And one day you may look back and realize something remarkable happened. The caterpillar became a butterfly.”

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