“Generosity (or liberality) is the good use of things we could use poorly, mostly money”—St. Thomas Aquinas

“I don’t want to be 85, singing ‘Oh no I got a big house but my heart is hurting me.’ ”—Andy Grammer

Introduction

One of the biggest obstacles to building good habits, is that it can cost money to make our new habit stick. To change our behaviors, we need cues, cravings, and responses. Without these, nothing will change.

Cue → Craving →  Response →  Result

• A cue is like a reminder. For instance, a full hamper means, “Oh right, I need to do laundry.”

• A craving is the desire to do that behavior: “I don’t want my family to go around in dirty clothes, so I’d better do the laundry today.”

• A response is taking the necessary action(s): Dump the dirty clothes in the washing machine. Add the detergent. Set the right program. Hit “start” button.

Sometimes, what we need to live our habits costs money: laundry machine, detergent, hamper, water and electricity, etc.

“But I don’t want to spend more money.”

I know. Budgets can be tight, particularly this time of year. At the same time, most of us waste plenty of money, we just don’t admit it: apps, streaming services, eating out, etc. A good rule of thumb is 95/5:

95% of your budget, be ruthlessly stingy.

5% splurge on stuff you love.

Most people need to tighten up the 95, but there are plenty of you out there who need permission to spend the 5. Aquinas gives this hierarchy for the uses of money:

• The worst: Spend uselessly (the Prodigal)

• Next worst: Save uselessly (the Stingy or Closed-fisted)

• Second best: save usefully (provide for bad times, special occasions, large purchases, retirement, etc.)

• Best: Spend usefully (the Generous man)

A rather successful agnostic once said:

"The best investment is the one you make in yourself. " --Warren Buffett

“But I’ve tried that before, and it didn’t work.”

Great. You’ve found one thing that doesn’t work. Don’t do that again. Try something new. And before you try something new, if you don’t want to go in blind, do a little post-mortem:

1. What was I trying to accomplish?

2. How committed was I to getting there? (Were you as committed to change as you were to your spouse on your wedding day?)

3. How did I try to get there?

4. How close did I get?

5. What made me stop?

6. How can I keep that from stopping me this time?

This is not that. Circumstances have changed. You’ve grown. Or maybe you’ve just finally had enough.

“But aren’t I supposed to put others first?”

Of course you are. And of course not. You are not God, but human. You can only give what you’ve received. As a mother I walked with the other day at the park put it:

When I exercise, I’m healthier.

When I’m healthier, I’m a better mommy.

The goal is generosity with your family and others. The path is generosity with yourself.

Rings of Generosity

If you had a tomato plant and never watered it, how many tomatoes would you expect from it? Not very many. How big would you expect them to be? Not very big. How juicy would your handful of tiny tomatoes be? Not very juicy.

Right, because the plant produces the fruit according to what it receives. Neglect the plant, and the fruits will be scarce… or missing altogether.

Do you think your heart is any different?

“But I don’t deserve…”

What? What don’t you deserve? Let me ask you this: If you were the only person on earth, would you do this for yourself? If the answer is “yes,” then you should probably do it because that’s how God loves you:

“God loves the soul as if it were the only one ever created” --St. John of the Cross, Spiritual Canticle

He loves you as if you were the only person on earth. He would do anything for you. Yet if you’re still not sure you should do it, talk to someone who will shoot you straight, ok?

“But maybe my good habit isn’t worth the cost”

That, my dear, is a heresy. Or, if you prefer, it’s a lie from the bowels of hell. The spirit, your spirit, is worth infinitely more matter. Said differently:

The tiniest growth in virtue,

or even the tiniest attempt to grow,

is worth more than all the money in the world.

Being stingy with yourself could have eternal consequences, as Thomas a Kempis heard from Christ Himself in The Imitation of Christ:

Who is there who serves and obeys Me in all things

With as great a care as that with which

The world and its masters are served?

…for a small gain, they travel great distances;

for eternal life, many will scarcely lift their foot.

They… fight shamefully in courts for a single coin.

They are not afraid to work day and night for a trifle

Or an empty promise.

But for an unchanging good,

For a reward beyond measure,

For the greatest honor and everlasting glory,

It must be said to their shame that men begrudge even the least effort.

Be ashamed then [Christian] that

they are more eager for perdition

than you are for Life,

that they rejoice more in vanity

than you in Truth.

We’ve all worked hard for trifles. As we come to the end of 2024, let’s work hard for Life.

Conclusion

If any of this makes sense to you, please do not simply agree with it, but put it into practice. Spend money usefully, on your spirit, on good habits, on virtue. Become the man or woman you were meant to be. Let nothing get in your way. Pietra Fitness has agreed to be the first to start:

Bonus #1: 40-day free trial of Pietra Fitness for you (if you aren’t already a member) or anyone you care about through December 2024. If you’re on a tight budget this holiday season, this can be the perfect gift to share with those you love.

Bonus #2: As has become our custom, there’s also a worksheet for you to use generosity to build good habits. (Generosity Worksheet)

Bonus #3: To all of you, a very merry Christmas!

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As the world around us bustles toward Christmas, with decorations and festivities starting earlier each year, Advent provides Catholics with a countercultural invitation: a time to slow down, quiet our hearts, and prepare ourselves for the coming of Christ.

Advent is a season rich in traditions that help us reflect, pray, and truly ready ourselves for the great mystery of the Incarnation. Here’s a look at some uniquely Catholic Advent traditions—many of which are often forgotten—that can help us draw closer to the mystery of Christ’s birth.

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Observe Advent Ember Days

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The Ember Days are a series of three days (Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday) that fall near the beginning of each liturgical season, including Advent. 

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Traditionally, these were days of fasting, prayer, and almsgiving intended to sanctify each season, inviting the faithful to take stock of their lives and renew their commitment to God. During Advent, the Ember Days are an invitation to reflect on Christ’s coming and seek a renewal in faith.

On these days, try adding some extra prayer and fasting to your routine. You could use these days as a time to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation, read the Gospel passages about the Annunciation and Visitation, or practice small acts of charity. 

By focusing on repentance and renewal, the Ember Days can set a meaningful, reverent tone for the Advent season.

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Attend a Rorate Mass

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The Rorate Mass, a beautiful Advent tradition that has been somewhat forgotten, is celebrated in the early hours of the morning, typically just before dawn. 

The Mass is offered in honor of the Blessed Virgin Mary, who bore the Light of the World within her, and the church is usually lit only by candles. As dawn breaks during the Mass, the growing light serves as a powerful symbol of the coming of Christ, the Light of the World.

While not every parish offers a Rorate Mass, look for one in your diocese. The experience is moving and symbolic, helping you tangibly enter into the mystery of Advent. 

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If you can’t find a Rorate Mass near you, consider attending an early morning Mass during Advent, bringing your own candle as a reminder of the tradition, or even lighting candles at home as you say your morning prayers.

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Pray the “O Antiphons”

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The “O Antiphons” are a series of antiphons, or short verses, chanted or recited during the last seven days of Advent, from December 17 to December 23. Each one invokes a different title of Christ, such as “O Wisdom,” “O Lord,” “O Root of Jesse,” and so on. 

Each title points to a different aspect of the Messiah, taken from the prophecies of Isaiah. These antiphons have a beautiful structure that leads us to meditate on who Jesus is and why He came into the world.

Consider adding the “O Antiphons” to your evening prayers, or use them as a daily meditation for the final week of Advent. You can find printable “O Antiphon” cards online to keep in your prayer space or to use in a family Advent prayer routine. Some families even sing a verse of “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel” each night, focusing on a different antiphon.

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Make a Jesse Tree

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The Jesse Tree is an ancient tradition that involves decorating a tree or branch with symbols that represent the ancestors of Jesus or key events in salvation history. This tradition takes its name from the prophecy in Isaiah 11:1: “A shoot shall sprout from the stump of Jesse.” 

Each ornament on the tree signifies a different story or figure from the Old Testament, reminding us how God prepared the world for the coming of Christ.

Each day of Advent, add an ornament representing a different figure in salvation history. There are many kits available to make your own Jesse Tree ornaments, or you can create simple paper ornaments with your family. 

Take a few minutes each day to read the Scripture associated with each ornament. This daily practice provides a powerful reminder that Jesus’ birth was part of God’s plan from the very beginning.

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Celebrate December Feast Days with Traditions That Point Us to Christ

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One of the beautiful aspects of Advent is the way it’s interwoven with feast days dedicated to Mary and the saints, helping us keep our focus on Christ and His Kingdom. Celebrating these days gives us tangible moments to practice traditions and rituals that help us prepare spiritually for Christmas. Three especially beloved feasts during Advent are the Feast of St. Nicholas, St. Lucy’s Day, and the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception.

• Feast of St. Nicholas (December 6): Known for his generosity, St. Nicholas is the original inspiration behind Santa Claus. Many Catholic families mark this day by filling children’s shoes with treats and small gifts, a nod to St. Nicholas’s legendary acts of kindness. The feast is a reminder to embrace the spirit of giving, mirroring St. Nicholas’s love for Christ and his concern for others.
  
  
• Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception (December 8): This holy day of obligation celebrates Mary’s conception without sin, honoring her as the one prepared by God to bear the Savior. Attending Mass on this day is a wonderful way to deepen our devotion to Mary, asking her to help us ready our hearts for Jesus. Celebrating this feast also invites us to renew our own “yes” to God, inspired by Mary’s complete trust in His plan.
  
  
• St. Lucy’s Day (December 13): St. Lucy, whose name means “light,” is celebrated with particular joy in countries like Sweden and Italy. In honor of her faith and martyrdom, some families celebrate by lighting candles or having a young girl in the family wear a wreath of candles as “St. Lucy.” This feast brings a reminder of the “light of the world” we are waiting for in Advent and encourages us to reflect on our own call to shine with the light of Christ.

This Advent, consider incorporating these feast days to give your family a sense of the “Catholic rhythm” of the season. These special days highlight virtues like generosity, purity, and the call to bring Christ’s light to the world—all of which prepare our hearts to receive Jesus with joy and love at Christmas.

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As we approach Christmas, let’s allow these uniquely Catholic Advent traditions to enrich our season, focusing not only on the festivities but on the incredible gift we are preparing to receive. 

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Advent is a beautiful time of hope, longing, and preparation. By reviving some of these forgotten traditions, we’re reminded that Christ’s birth isn’t just a historical event but a mystery that transforms our lives here and now. 

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May these practices help you welcome Christ into your heart with renewed faith and joy this Christmas.

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As the temperature drops, we start reaching for cozy sweaters, hot drinks, and thicker blankets. But along with those comforts of colder weather often comes a familiar companion: stiffness in our muscles and joints. 

When the chill sets in, our bodies naturally tense up, making us feel tight, less flexible, and sometimes even sore–leaving us more vulnerable to injuries.

Staying limber and flexible through the winter months is essential to keep energy levels high and muscles primed. Let’s explore some key ways to incorporate stretching and mobility exercises into your routine to combat the chill.

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Why Cold Weather Tightens Muscles

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When temperatures fall, our bodies naturally restrict blood flow to the skin’s surface to conserve warmth. This redirection of blood flow tightens the muscles, creating tension in areas we may not even realize. Less blood flow means lower muscle elasticity, making us more susceptible to injuries, joint pain, and general stiffness. 

Cold weather can even affect tendons and ligaments, increasing the need for both dynamic and static stretches to maintain a wide range of motion.

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Dynamic and Static Stretches: The Essentials

Dynamic stretching is great for warming up your body and gently activating muscles before workouts. Think of simple movements like controlled leg swings, arm circles, or torso twists—just enough to get blood flowing and wake up the joints, as trying to stretch cold muscles can lead to injury. 

After exercise, focus on static stretches to cool down and improve flexibility. These longer holds target areas like hamstrings, quads, and shoulders, all common places for tension. Stretching post-workout helps muscles recover and retain flexibility even in colder weather.

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Boost Your Routine with Pietra Fitness’ Online Studio

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Pietra Fitness’ Online Studio offers a variety of classes designed to keep you moving smoothly through every season. From targeted stretching sessions to full-body mobility workouts, you’ll find routines that improve flexibility and help prevent winter stiffness. 

Many of our classes require minimal equipment, making it easy to stay consistent whether you’re at home or on the go.

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Final Tips for Staying Limber

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• ‍Stay Hydrated: Even in winter, staying hydrated keeps muscles supple and joints happy.‍
• Layer Up: Keep warm during and after exercise to avoid stiffness.‍
• Mind Your Posture: Avoid slumping by maintaining good alignment, even when you’re working from home.

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With a few small steps and the right support, you’ll stay flexible and energized all season long. Join us in our online studio to enjoy guided mobility workouts that will keep you feeling your best, no matter the temperature outside!

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Introduction

Bad Habits. We’ve all got them. We all don’t like them. We all have tried to change them… And we’ve all failed. But why do we fail ?

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Sherry’s Nail-Biting

Sherry was an incredibly successful businesswoman who had one  habit she couldn’t shake: nail-biting. One day, we sat down for a chat

‍Me: You know that nail-biting thing you do? I think there’s some good in there.

Sherry: What are you talking about? No way. Biting my nails is all bad.

Me: Really? Then why do you do it?...

Sherry: I don’t know.

Me: It must give you something…

Sherry: Well, I mostly do it when I’m nervous.

Me: And it calms you down?...

Sherry: No... I think it heightens my focus on what’s going on.

Me: I can see that. The physical stimulation wakes up your brain, particularly when you need it the most.

Sherry: Exactly.

Me: So, what we really need is a strategy to help you focus.

Sherry: I never thought of that .

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Problems and Real Problems

The habits we label as “bad” are not our problem. They are a symptom of an underlying condition: our quest for some (often unknown) good. We all seek good in all we do - and different parts of us seek different goods. Sherry’s nail-biting was protecting her in difficult situations by keeping her mind sharp. Who knows how much of Sherry’s success was directly a result of her sharpened mind? What an incredible gift. And what an incredible discovery.

‍The good she was seeking in her old habit

became

the foundation of her new habit.

Still, it made her feel embarrassed and ugly. Yuck. It  was time to find a better way. So, we decided to try something called the SCORE scaffold.

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SCORE

SCORE is an acronym for a 5-step process: Symptom, Cause, Outcome, Resources, Exit.

Here’s what it looks like in Sherry’s nail-biting habit example:

1. Name the Symptom: Nail-biting

2. Identify the Cause: Protecting herself in difficult situations

3. Define the Desired Outcome: Engage in a new habit that gives all the upside of nail-biting and maybe even more focus with less (possibly even zero) downside.

4. Discover Resources: See below.

5. Find the Exit: Test different strategies until Sherry finds one or more that work for her. Then celebrate: “Yay Sherry! You did it!”

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Discovering Resources… And Failing Forward

To discover strategies to help her focus, Sherry turned to an ubiquitous  expert: the internet. She decided to buy herself a fidget spinner like those often used by individuals diagnosed with ADHD. Guess what happened? Spinner in one hand, Sherry bit the nails on her other hand. Epic fail! But wait - she never bit the nails of the hand with the spinner in it. Partial success.

Sherry decided to buy a second spinner. Now with both hands occupied there was no way she’d bite her nails, right? Right. She bit her tongue instead. Ouch! Another failure. Or was it? She at least wasn’t biting her nails. In a very short time, she’d eliminated a 40-year old “bad” habit. But Sherry wanted more. She wanted a pain-free mouth.

Sherry decided to try chewing gum. The gum made her feel embarrassed and childish as people noticed. Bummer! But what if she only chewed a half-piece… or even less?

Sherry became a Gum Magician. Yes, she chewed regularly, but no one noticed because she was so good at hiding it. This had the side benefit of giving Sherry a boost of confidence  because she knew something the other person didn’t.

Then there were some face-to-face meetings where Sherry couldn’t employ her spinners as there was no desk or table to hide them. She didn’t bite her nails, but the urge for stimulation was there. She developed a method of finger tapping, sequentially pressing her thumbs against the other fingers of each hand. It worked!

She also discovered that she was never tempted during meals - until the food was gone and the conversation deepened. However, she soon learned to sneak out her spinners and pop in a bit of gum during a trip to the ladies’ room. She did it! Yes! No more nasty nails. No more embarrassment.

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Take Your Own Journey

Ahh, but we’re not here to talk about Sherry. We’re here to talk about you. You know that old habit you’ve been struggling with for years? You know, the one you try to hide? Or maybe that you’ve stopped hiding because you’ve decided it’s just part of who you are? The one that causes you so much guilt and shame? The one that no matter what you try, nothing seems to help? Perhaps it’s time to SCORE it:

1. Symptom: A bad old habit I’ve struggled with is ________________________________

2. Cause: The good I’m seeking there is ________________________________

OR the bad I’m trying to get out of is ________________________________

3. Outcome: I will do whatever it takes to develop a habit that will give me ________________________________ as much or more than my old habit without the downside of ________________________________

4. Resources: I could try ________________________________

5. Exit: It wasn’t easy, but after some trial and error, I did it! Yes!!

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Conclusion

We don’t need to demonize them to replace our old habits. We do need to thank God for them because they’ve gotten us where we are today. And we can choose to break free if we’re willing to discover what motivates our behavior. What is the good you’re looking for? Figure that out, and you can find new pathways for getting there, pathways that perhaps have even more upside and a lot less downside. When you discover the truth about your motivations, it will set you free… and you will be free indeed. Thanks be to God.

For those of you who want a printable worksheet on the SCORE Scaffold, you can find that here.

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As the seasons change, so can our mood. For many, the arrival of autumn brings a sense of warmth and coziness, but for others, it can trigger a condition known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

In this post, we’ll explore what SAD is, how to recognize its symptoms, and practical ways to address it for a healthier, more balanced winter season.

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‍What is Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Seasonal Affective Disorder is a type of depression that follows a seasonal pattern. It usually starts in the fall when daylight hours decrease and peaks during the winter months when days are shortest. Though it’s most common in colder climates, SAD can affect people anywhere.

The symptoms of SAD often mirror those of major depression but are tied specifically to the change in season. They can vary from person to person, but here are some common signs to watch out for:

• Persistent Low Mood: Feeling down most of the day, nearly every day.
• Loss of Interest: Losing interest in activities you normally enjoy.
• Fatigue and Low Energy: Feeling constantly tired, even with plenty of rest.
• Oversleeping: A tendency to sleep more, yet still feel exhausted.
• Cravings for Carbs: An increase in appetite, especially for carbohydrates, leading to weight gain.
• Difficulty Concentrating: Struggling to focus or complete tasks.
• Irritability: Feeling more agitated or anxious than usual.
• Withdrawal from Social Activities: Avoiding friends and family.

If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms, it’s important to take them seriously and seek help.

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What Causes SAD?

The exact cause of SAD isn’t fully understood, but several factors are believed to play a role:

• Reduced Sunlight: Less exposure to sunlight during the fall and winter months can disrupt your body’s internal clock (circadian rhythm) and lead to feelings of depression.
• Serotonin Levels: A drop in serotonin, a brain chemical that affects mood, may be triggered by reduced sunlight.
• Melatonin Production: The change in season, again particularly the reduced sunlight, can also affect melatonin levels, impacting sleep patterns and mood.
• Vitamin D Deficiency: Sunlight is a natural source of Vitamin D, and during the colder months, many people experience a drop in their Vitamin D levels due to less sun exposure. Vitamin D is crucial for maintaining mood and energy levels, and a deficiency can contribute to the onset or worsening of depressive symptoms. Taking a Vitamin D supplement during the winter months can help mitigate this risk.

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How to Address and Manage SAD

If you suspect you’re suffering from SAD, the good news is that there are effective strategies to manage it. Here are some steps you can take:

‍1. Maximize Exposure to Natural Light

One of the simplest and most effective ways to combat SAD is to increase your exposure to sunlight. Spend time outdoors, especially during midday, when the sun is at its brightest. 

Even a short walk can make a big difference. If natural light is scarce, consider using a light therapy box, which mimics natural sunlight and can help regulate your mood.

2. Stay Active

Physical activity is a natural mood booster. Regular exercise can reduce anxiety, increase energy levels, and improve your overall well-being. 

Aim for activities you enjoy, whether it's walking, yoga, or joining a fitness class. Moving your body daily can make a significant impact on your mental health; the Pietra Fitness Online Studio makes it easy!

3. Eat a Balanced Diet

Craving carbs is a common symptom of SAD, but indulging too often in comfort foods can lead to weight gain and sluggishness. 

Focus on eating a balanced diet rich in whole grains, lean proteins, and plenty of fruits and vegetables to maintain steady energy levels and support your mood.

4. Practice Mindfulness 

Mindfulness practices such as meditation can help manage the symptoms of SAD. Engaging in deep breathing exercises, journaling, or prayer can center your thoughts and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression which is why our Pietra Fitness classes combine strengthening exercises and Christian meditation.

5. Stay Socially Connected

Isolation can make SAD symptoms worse. Even if you don’t feel like socializing, try to stay connected with friends and family. Consider joining a support group, whether online or in person, to share experiences and receive encouragement.

Read more about the impact of meaningful relationships on your wellness and how to nurture them here.

6. Seek Professional Help

If your symptoms are severe or you’re finding it hard to cope, consider talking to a mental health professional. 

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is a proven treatment for SAD that can help you change negative thought patterns and behaviors. In some cases, medication, such as antidepressants, may be prescribed to help regulate your mood.

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Looking Forward

While SAD can feel overwhelming, it’s important to remember that it’s a manageable condition. By taking steps to recognize and address the symptoms early, you can navigate the seasonal changes with more resilience and maintain your mental health. 

If you find yourself or a loved one struggling with the winter blues, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

Stay mindful of your mental health, especially as the colder months approach, and know that brighter days are ahead.

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Can a good Catholic celebrate Halloween? 

As Halloween approaches each year, many faithful Catholics wonder about the origins of this holiday and whether it can be celebrated in good conscience by a faithful Christian. Is it rooted in paganism? Satanism?

Despite what secular sources tend to say, Halloween did not begin with the pagan Celtic Festival Samhain, nor does the holiday have its roots in the occult. It is deeply rooted in a long-standing Catholic feast.

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The word "Halloween" comes from "All Hallows' Eve," which the Church marks as the first day of a triduum of feasts known as Allhallowtide, which includes the feasts of All Saints and All Souls.

The Solemnity of All Saints Day (once called All Hallows Day) is celebrated on November 1st. On this feast, the Church honors all the saints, known and unknown, and has been celebrated in the Church since the early centuries. The Church established this day to honor the great cloud of witnesses who have gone before us into Heaven. In the Catholic tradition, vigils (the evening before a major feast) have long been a time of preparation and prayer. 

Today, however, this sacred vigil focuses more on violence, horror, and death rather than Christ’s victory over sin and evil. Should we simply stand by and let our Catholic culture fade into the background while a Culture of Death flourishes? Or should we embrace the celebration that is rightfully ours?

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How you can celebrate Halloween like a Catholic

As Catholics, we don’t need to shy away from celebrating Halloween—in fact, we should reclaim it!

By focusing on its true roots, we can embrace Halloween as a time to honor the saints, pray for the souls of the departed, and joyfully celebrate Christ’s victory over death. Here are a few ways to celebrate Halloween in a meaningful, faith-filled way:

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Celebrate the Saints

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One of the most meaningful ways to celebrate Halloween as a Catholic is to reconnect with its original purpose: preparing for All Saints' Day. Families can celebrate by having their children dress up as saints, biblical heroes, or angels instead of focusing on gory or frightening costumes. 

Hosting or attending an All Saints' Day party is a great way to turn the focus to the communion of saints, teaching kids about their holy patrons while still enjoying the festive side of Halloween.

You can also make it a family tradition to read the lives of saints or play saint-themed games where kids guess the saint based on clues or facts about their lives.

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Go to Mass

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Halloween is first and foremostly the vigil of All Saints Day, which is also a holy day of obligation. So why not get a jump start on the celebration of this major feast by going to your parish’s vigil mass before the other festivities.

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Pray for the Dead

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Today, Halloween seems to be a holiday that focuses on death in all the wrong ways. People put out gruesome decorations or bloody costumes as something to fear; Catholic tradition, however, paints a much more complete picture of what happens when you die.

Halloween is a great time to begin praying for souls of those who have died, especially as the Church celebrates All Souls Day on November 2. You can visit a cemetery to pray for the dead, light candles, or offer Masses for those who have gone before us.

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Create Faith-Inspired Traditions

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Instead of participating in spooky or superstitious activities, create new family traditions that are grounded in faith. 

You can carve pumpkins with Crosses, the Sacred Heart, or other Christian symbols? For inspiration and ideas, check out these printable templates!.

You could bake soul cakes—a tradition that dates back to medieval England, when Christians would go door-to-door offering prayers for the dead in exchange for these small cakes. Families can pray the Rosary, focusing on the Sorrowful Mysteries as a reminder of Christ's sacrifice and victory over sin and death.

For a more modern take, consider hosting a saint-themed scavenger hunt or movie night featuring films that highlight saintly virtues, courage, and the battle between good and evil.

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Hand Out Candy with a Faithful Twist

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If your family participates in handing out candy to trick-or-treaters, this can be an opportunity for evangelization. Consider attaching a small prayer card, a saint’s image, or a message about the origins of Halloween to the candy. This provides a subtle but effective way to witness to your neighbors and share the Catholic faith in a simple, joyful way.

Another idea is to participate in Trunk-or-Treat events at your local parish, where kids can safely trick-or-treat while learning about the saints or other aspects of the faith in a wholesome, fun environment.

By consciously integrating your faith into the celebration of Halloween, you can use it as an opportunity to catechize, evangelize, and celebrate the true meaning behind Allhallowtide.

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So, can a good Catholic celebrate Halloween? Absolutely! When celebrated with its true meaning in mind, Halloween becomes a rich, faith-filled vigil that leads us into the feasts of All Saints' and All Souls' Day. Rather than shunning it or letting it become a celebration of darkness, we can reclaim Halloween as a joyful occasion to honor the saints, pray for the dead, and remember that Christ has already conquered death.

By grounding Halloween in its Catholic origins, we remind ourselves that we are part of a larger story—one that doesn't end in fear, but in the hope and promise of eternal life.

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“A person is said to be patient because he acts in a praiseworthy manner by enduring things which hurt him here and now and is not unduly saddened by them.”—St. Thomas Aquinas

“The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”—Thomas Edison, failed to invent the commercial light bulb 2,774 times

“100 bad days make 100 good stories.” —AJR

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Introduction

On Monday, Naïve Genevieve planted ten tomato seeds in her garden. She couldn’t wait to enjoy home grown tomatoes.

On Tuesday she looked for tomatoes and was surprised she didn’t even have any plants yet. She watered extra to encourage the seeds to sprout.

On Wednesday, she checked again and still no plants. Now she began to worry:

+ Were the seeds dormant?

+ Worse, had the man at the seed store tricked her somehow?

+ Maybe the soil was inadequate for growing tomatoes.

+ Then again, the weather might be too hot… or too cold.

+ No, she had definitely under-watered on Monday… and over-watered on Tuesday.

+ Yes, that was it. Perhaps she was just no good at gardening.

+ Ah, why was she so stupid? …Why did she ALWAYS do this, think she could do something and then fail?

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We’ve All Been There

Step 1: We start a good habit.

Step 2: We get “poor results.”

Step 3: We stop the good habit and tell ourselves a story (almost always a story of self-blame).

But what is actually to blame for the “poor results” of our new habits? Our “stupid” expectations.

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Expectations, Friend and Foe

As we’ve talked about before, hope is the fuel for good habits. If we didn’t expect a new habit to improve our life, we’d never start it.

An expectation has two parts. It isn’t only made up of a result. It’s also made up of time. When do I get the result I’m after? It’s this second aspect of expectation that led Naïve Genevieve to give up on her seeds… and call herself stupid.

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Life Is NOT a Straight Line

You might be the exception, but most people’s expectations are linear. You put in time and energy and you get a result, kind of like walking.

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This chart is neat and tidy and gives us a sense of control. It is also, by and large, a myth. Why? 3 reasons.

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1. Habits Are Cumulative (aka Deceptive)

When we replace a bad habit with a good one (or a good one with a better one), that previous habit still has us moving in a particular direction. Think about steering a boat. Yes, you’ve turned the wheel, but the momentum is still pushing the boat in its old direction, so rather than a straight line, your progress looks more like:

That shaded section is what James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, calls the Zone of Delusion. From the beginning of our new habit, we are getting better, but the results are slower than we expect -  until they aren’t. If we stick with it, there comes a point when our results go beyond what we expect. If we quit during the zone of delusion, it’s because we’re deceived. The results are coming… if we’d just wait for them.

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2. The Training Effect

Donna started doing static contraction training (SCT) after being diagnosed with pre-osteoporosis.  Unlike weightlifting with its reps and sets and equipment, SCT involves pushing against an immovable object like a wall for 4-10 seconds. 1 rep. 1 set. Firing every muscle fiber you can. That’s it.

After her first week, Donna’s trainer started having her skip days. It was NOT because she was sore or tired, rather after such intense stimulus, her muscles need time to repair, then grow. Her results looked like this:

During recovery phase, Donna was weaker than before, but as her body built her muscles (and bones), she grew stronger. She just needed to let her body heal, just like we all do when we’re training.

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3. Breakthroughs Are Real

One week after giving up on her tomato seeds, Genevieve noticed ten bumps in the soil. Her seeds had sprouted. With renewed enthusiasm she watered them. And waited. And waited. And waited. She did not get to eat her first tomato until 100 days after she’d planted her seeds.

She wasn’t a failure. She wasn’t stupid. Nobody had tricked her.

Seeds take time to sprout. Plants take time to grow.

Her results looked like this:

Nothing for 99 days. Then on day 100 a rich harvest, all the tomatoes she could want… and they were delicious.

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A “Magic” Formula

Here’s a question: How many times do you let your child try to walk before you say, “Sorry, kid. You can’t do it. You’ve failed. You’ll never be able to walk. You’re just not a walker. You’re one of those crawl-only people”?

Crazy, right? You’d never say that to your child. But would you say it to yourself?

+ I can never start my own business. I’m no businesswoman.

+ It’s too late for me to learn the piano. I’m not musical enough anyway.

+ I can’t do public speaking. I’m too shy.

+ What? Did I think I’d become some great mystic if I prayed every day?

If we patiently talked to ourselves the way we talk to our kids, we’d say something like: “Look at you! Wow. That was so close. You almost had it. Ready to try again? Ok, here we go. You CAN do this.

Because deep down somewhere, we all know the Magic Formula: Keep. Trying. Until.

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Conclusion

Never, ever, ever give up. Starting a new habit is hard, requiring time and energy. Continuing a new habit in the face of dashed expectations is harder. Often our expectations are unrealistically high in the short-term AND unrealistically low in the long-term. Life is not linear. There are bumps and jumps and lag-time. If you push through those tough times, you can do pretty much anything any other human has done and a handful of things no one has ever done if you follow the magic formula: Keep. Trying. Until.

If you’ve found this useful and are looking for a way to put it into practice, here’s a worksheet you can try.

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Creating a home gym doesn’t have to break the bank. Whether you're looking to save on gym memberships or simply want the convenience of working out at home, building a home gym can be affordable and effective. 

With a little creativity, you can design a space that meets your fitness needs without spending a fortune.

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Define Your Fitness Goals

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Before diving into equipment purchases, take time to define your fitness goals. Are you focusing on strength training, cardio, flexibility, or a combination of all three? 

Having clear goals will help you prioritize which equipment to invest in, ensuring that your home gym supports your workout plan without unnecessary purchases.

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Maximize Space

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You don’t need a dedicated room to create a functional gym. A corner of your bedroom, living room, or garage can work just as well. Consider using foldable or stackable equipment that can be stored when not in use, maximizing your living space.

Small Space Tips:

• Use vertical space: Wall-mounted racks for storing resistance bands, mats, or jump ropes keep things organized.
• Furniture with dual purposes: Consider furniture that doubles as storage, like ottomans for workout gear.
• Invest in a mat: A good workout mat can turn any small space into an area for stretching or bodyweight exercises.

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Invest Gradually

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You don’t need to buy everything at once. Start with a few key pieces of equipment that align with your goals, and expand your home gym as your budget allows. 

By building your gym gradually, you can spread out the costs and make more informed decisions about which items you truly need.

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Focus on Versatile Equipment

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When you're on a budget, it's smart to invest in multi-functional equipment that allows for a variety of workouts. Here are some cost-effective essentials:

• Resistance Bands: These are incredibly versatile and affordable, allowing you to do strength training, flexibility exercises, and rehab workouts without taking up much space.
• Dumbbells or Kettlebells: A pair of adjustable dumbbells or kettlebells can offer a full-body workout, targeting multiple muscle groups with various exercises.
• Jump Rope: A jump rope is one of the most affordable and effective tools for cardio workouts, requiring minimal space.
• Stability Ball: This low-cost item can be used for core exercises, balance work, and even as a bench for strength training.
• Pull-Up Bar: If you have a doorway that can accommodate one, a pull-up bar offers an effective upper-body workout for under $50.

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DIY and Thrift Options

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You also don’t have to buy everything brand-new. Look for deals on used equipment or get creative with DIY solutions:

• Secondhand Equipment: Check local online marketplaces like Craigslist, Facebook Marketplace, or eBay for used gym equipment at a fraction of the price.
• Thrift Stores: Some thrift stores carry workout gear, from dumbbells to stationary bikes, for much less than retail.
• DIY Weights: Use household items like filled water jugs, backpacks with books, or bags of sand as makeshift weights for strength training.

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Join Pietra Fitness Online Studio

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A membership to our Pietra Fitness Online studio is another affordable investment to your home gym experience. Combining strength training, stretching, and Christian meditation, we offer full-body workouts that require minimal equipment, making it perfect for those on a budget. 

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With our Online Studio, you gain access to a wide variety of classes that focus on core stability, flexibility, and strength—all from the comfort of your home. It's an affordable way to integrate mindful movement and spiritual growth into your fitness routine, making your home gym experience truly well-rounded.

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